Now, there’s nothing in the whole world that can replace sex for a true feeling of mind and body intimacy. But as wonderful as sex is, there’s something incomparably special about a kiss. With a kiss, you can communicate passion and emotion in a way you can with nothing else in your arsenal. For most people it’s one of the most important parts of a physical romantic relationship.
That expression starts to pale when your partner kisses badly. Unfortunately, kissing is one of those wait and see things; hard to predict. After all, no one puts “great person, bad kisser” on their internet dating profile.
Fortunately, bad kissing is not that difficult to fix! It’s likely that your sweetie has just never learned how to kiss properly. Thinking about dumping your sweetie because you don’t like their lip-lock technique (or the lack thereof)? No need, just keep reading for some subtle improvement techniques.
What They’re Doing Wrong
There are a couple mistakes that are most common with bad kissers. And by far the most noticeable and unpleasant of them is over-use of the tongue. Maybe because of movies they’ve watched or what their friends told them when they were kids, but some people think that French-kissing means two people doing battle with their tongues. And so when it comes time to smooch, they bring their weapon out full-force. But “let me stick my tongue down your throat” is just never going to be sexy.
What To Do
Provided you never want to date this person again, feel free to tell them their technique sucks (pun intended!). Otherwise you’re best to avoid mentioning it altogether. Why? Because no matter how nicely and gently to tell them, they’re going to be embarrassed in a big way. You’re going to have to take the lead on this, without ever uttering a word.
Step one in teaching someone to kiss better is to get them interested in the kiss itself. When there’s no doubt that they’re into the kiss (and you), pull back just a bit to slow the pace. Don’t pull back so much that they’ll feel rejected, but just enough to slow things down a bit. This will give you the chance to break up the tedium and initiate some new elements.
If your kissing partner treats his or her tongue like a light saber, it’s up to you to make Luke put it away. Simply disengage your tongue and change the focus of the kiss to the lips. You’re changing both the style and the pace of the kiss.
Once the tongue truce has been established, it’s time to introduce your smooching other half to more kissing options. Try alternating between kissing the top and bottom lips. Sucking the bottom lip lightly is also a pleaser as is gently using your teeth. Hopefully your date will enjoy the new sensations and it will spark some creativity of their own.
When your partner is into the swing of trying these new techniques, fall back and let them take control. Given a bit of time, they should discover the pleasure that comes from these new techniques and confidence in their new kissing ability. All without knowing that you had a hand in it (so to speak).
